Why Couples Counselling?

Our partner is our most significant relationship. When things aren’t working in this relationship, it impacts everything else in our life! We want and need to feel loved, valued, heard and important to our significant other. When we don’t feel any of these things and do not know how to fix it, we feel lost, angry, and frustrated. We can withdraw, become irritable, or alternate between emotions. Some common concerns include:

• Resentments over perceived roles and responsibilities.
• Disconnect emotionally with little or no intimacy.
• Withdrawal, stonewalling, depression, or isolation from others.
• Discrepancy in sexual desires or frequency.
• Resentments over finances.
• Difficulty with extended family, friends, or in-laws.
• Challenges facing blended families with co-parents and stepchildren.
• Life transitions like a new baby, job loss, move, empty nest, or death.
• Betrayals such as dishonesty, infidelity, addictions, or secrets.
• Different beliefs or values clash after marriage.
• Different approaches to parenting.

How well we work as a couple includes how well we “live together”, taking care of daily aspects of living like the household, bills, children, and work and our “intimate or sexual relationship.” When we experience problems on one side, it often impacts the other. We can help you learn how to communicate, compromise, and get what you need from one another. You don’t have to struggle any longer. Help is available for you today!

How we Help Couples?

We help you identify the patterns that are keeping you stuck. Often, our implicit beliefs and values influence our behaviors without our awareness. We may even repeat old relationship patterns or learned behaviors from childhood, without being aware of them. Old relationships or childhood traumas may influence our beliefs and our ability to be vulnerable and connect with our partner. This can influence our relationships in many ways.

We incorporate techniques from The Gottman Method, Emotion Focused Therapy, and Imago Therapy to help you overcome your communication challenges, experience a deep compassion and empathy for each other, and re-establish a stronger, new connection as a couple. There is no worse feeling than feeling criticized, unimportant, or ignored by the most important person in our lives. There is hope. Help is available.

As a Certified Sex Therapy Informed Professional (CSTIP), we can help you re-establish an intimate and satisfying connection. We explore what is working well and how to get more of what you love! Many physical conditions can impact our sexual experience. Once we dive into the different issues, meanings each partner has assigned to different beliefs, and how these impact the relationship, we are able to move towards a more unified goal that gives you both a more satisfying and intimate experience.

You deserve to share a life full of love with your partner. You both deserve to have the confidence that your partner is there is for you. You deserve to feel safe, valued, important, wanted, needed, and loved! Let’s get you on the path to the marriage you always wanted.

Learn more about sex therapy at The Integrative Sex Therapy Institute.